In this session Barb talks about the fact that our minds are deceitful. That we lie to ourselves. She asks this question: “Why do we bother lying to ourselves? Why not just tell ourselves the truth? Just say, You know what? I’m going to break my boundaries. That seems like a good idea. We lie to ourselves because we know it’s not a good idea. So we rack our brains for some way to make it ‘okay’ to eat—either by saying we’re not really breaking our boundaries or by coming up with some reason of why, in this situation, it’s actually a good idea to break our boundaries. Possibly even noble. We say, Of course anyone would eat in this situation. It’s a holiday. Or it’s free. Or everyone else is eating. It would be unsociable not to eat.”
She says that in some situations, you may need to break your boundaries in order to love well. But those situations do not happen often. Really it has to do with where your heart is – motives. Am I justifying the breaking of my boundaries because I just want to eat? Or is there a valid reason (to love well) to break them?
There is a way to break free from denial and justification eating. God’s Word says,
Rescue me, O Lord, from liars and from all deceitful people. Psalm 120:2 NLT
For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NIV
So then, let us not be like others, who are asleep, but let us be awake and sober. 1 Thessalonians 5:6 NIV
Going through Taste for Truth by Barb Raveling
Today I did well with my boundaries until after dinner. I made the comment to my husband that I wanted peanuts, but that I wasn’t hungry. I didn’t get up right away, but probably 45 minutes later I had that can of peanuts in my hand and had popped a handful in my mouth. I thought about that this morning and realize that had I immediately renewed my mind (not when I had the can in my hand, but when I said I wanted peanuts), that likely would not have happened. I got up and put the can away so that I wouldn’t be tempted to reach over for more. I didn’t go through the thinking that I was justifying the breaking of my boundaries… I just did it. Lord, help me to renew my mind with Your Word BEFORE I reach for anything outside of my boundaries.